Fyeah Long Distance Relationships

This is my boyfriend Jeremy and I. We’ve been together for 8 months now, and right now we are at opposite parts of the globe - he in Germany and I in New Zealand. He has gone to Germany to live for a year - we’re now 11,000 miles apart and it comforts me to be part of such a community where there are lots of different LDR relationships, but we all have love in common. We might not have been together for as long as other people, and he might not have been away as long as other people.. We also might not be apart as long as other people. I also don’t have to worry about his safety like other people. While we will not be able to see each other except on the other side of a computer screen, he will come home to me in a year’s time, and it scares me that we may be different by then. He is on a Rotary exchange where he will live with host families for a year and go to a German school, while I will be starting university.
I’m saddened we will be apart longer than we’ve been together, and it will be sad to see our anniversary pass by without being able to spend it together - though hopefully we will be able to in the years to come. Some of you are probably reading this and you may likely not be as sympathetic if you are in love with someone and you may never be fully together again. I completely feel for you. I have been in one of those relationships myself, and it didn’t work out. For me, the best thing in my life has been taken away from me for a long time, and although it will fly by for him, it’s so much harder when you’re the poor sap waiting back home. I have been told as such by his older sister, who likewise was in a relationship where her boyfriend went on exchange - and I already feel the difference. He is blissfully excited and I would love to go and share those things with him, but I can’t. I’m happy for him, but sad he’s not with me. It’s all very complicated. My parents are quite doubtful that we will be together for a whole year while he’s away. They think he or I will find someone else - he can’t actually do that as Rotary forbids dating anyone in your new country. His parents are much more supportive, and at the surprise leaving party I organized for him and his twin, I received much support from various other family members. While I will soon only live a few streets away from his family, it will be harder if my parents don’t support my relationship. They like him, of course they do. They are extremely fond of him in comparison to my previous boyfriends, but they doubt an LDR will work. Does/did anyone else have that problem, and how do I deal with that?

I will be here waiting until he comes back to me, and in that time I will stay as a part of this community. :) If anyone would like to speak to me, feel free to send messages to my Tumblr. It would give me strength as much as it might anyone else.

I know that if our relationships work out, it’s meant to be. Only the strongest relationships can last while you’re apart, and I hope mine will be one of them. Que sera, sera. <3

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